Spring 2025 Conflict Conqueror Scholarship Winner

Thomas Caleb Bathgate

Thomas’ experiences with conflict resolution have taught him the importance of accountability. He continues to implement this valuable skill in his daily life. Congratulations, Thomas, and we look forward to all you will accomplish!

Read his essay here:

Conflict is an inevitable part of life everyone faces, and one of the most pivotal moments of conflict I faced occurred during my teenage years, while managing my ADHD in a demanding school environment. My struggles with organization, focus, and emotional regulation often clashed with the expectations of teachers and peers. One particular incident involved a group project where my inability to meet deadlines and contribute effectively created tension among my teammates.

The conflict came to a head during a team meeting when one of my peers openly expressed frustration, accusing me of not pulling my weight. While their words stung, I understood their perspective and recognized that my actions, or lack thereof, were affecting the group’s dynamics. In the past, I might have shut down in the face of criticism, but this time I decided to approach the situation differently.

The first step I took was to acknowledge the problem. I apologized to my teammates for my shortcomings and admitted that I was struggling. This act of humility helped diffuse some of the immediate tension and demonstrated that I was willing to take responsibility for my actions.

Next, I sought to understand their concerns more deeply. I asked open-ended questions to clarify their expectations and listened carefully without becoming defensive. This allowed me to identify specific ways I could improve and contribute more effectively to the project.

I also took proactive steps to address my challenges. I scheduled a meeting with my teacher to discuss strategies for managing my ADHD and staying on top of my responsibilities. With their guidance, I broke down the project into smaller, manageable tasks and set up a timeline for completing them. I also communicated these steps to my teammates to rebuild their trust and show my commitment to the group’s success.

Over the next few weeks, I worked diligently to stay organized and meet my deadlines. I even took on an additional role within the group to demonstrate my dedication. By the end of the project, not only had we achieved a successful outcome, but I also felt a newfound sense of accomplishment and confidence in my ability to handle similar situations in the future.

This experience taught me several valuable lessons. First, I learned the importance of self-awareness and accountability in resolving conflicts. Acknowledging my role in the problem was the first step toward finding a solution. Second, I discovered the power of open communication. By actively listening to my teammates and expressing my willingness to improve, I was able to rebuild trust and foster collaboration. Finally, I realized the value of seeking help and using available resources. My teacher’s support and advice were instrumental in helping me overcome my challenges.

This conflict not only strengthened my interpersonal skills but also reinforced my resilience and determination. Today, I approach conflicts with a mindset of growth and collaboration, knowing that even the most challenging situations can lead to personal and collective progress when handled with honesty and care.